Caring For Yourself While Caregiving For Aging Parents

Every caregiver’s experience is different. Some find the role overwhelming and exhausting, while others feel it’s simply part of being there for a loved one. Even if you don’t think of caregiving as ‘hard,’ the constant responsibility can quietly take a toll on your health and well-being. Recognizing the signs of caregiver burnout — whether or not you feel burned out —protects both yourself and the person you care for.

Key Takeaways: Caregiver Burnout

• Many caregivers experience burnout.
• In some cases, scaling back your responsibilities and prioritizing healthy habits like eating regular meals and getting sleep can help.
• Seek support through caregiver groups, counseling or resources to help offset tasks.

Signs Of Caregiver Burnout

The following are common signs of caregiver burnout:

• Changes in eating or sleeping (more or less)
• Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
• Feelings of hopelessness, isolation or resentment
• Increased alcohol consumption or drug use
• Increased anger and irritability
• Lack of energy to do new things
• Neglect or rough treatment of your loved one

Ways To Reduce Caregiver Stress

There are multiple ways to lower stress. You can scale back your responsibilities, prioritize self-care and get the emotional support you need.

1. Lessen your workload

The first step to manage stress is to cut back your to-do list. Hough encourages caregivers to be specific when you ask family and friends for help. Most loved ones want to support you but aren’t sure how. Instead of vague requests, share a list of helpful tasks. For instance:

• Do laundry
• Make phone calls to insurance companies
• Mow the lawn
• Order groceries online
• Pick up prescriptions
• Prep lunches
• Research assisted living facilities
• Send pre-made meals

When you ask for help, you not only lighten your load but also help others feel connected to the care process.

Paid assistance, such as a home health aide, community options like adult day care and transportation programs can make a big difference. These services give your loved one companionship and support while you recharge.

2. Rethink self-care

It’s common for caregivers to delay your own doctor visits, skip meals or cancel social plans.

Caregivers can practice simple self-care tips, such as to eat balanced meals, keep healthy snacks on hand, walk outside, listen to music or catch up with a friend.

3. Find caregiver support

Caregiving can feel isolating, but you are not alone. More than 34 million Americans are unpaid caregivers, and many experience depression as a result of stress. In fact, 40 to 70 percent of caregivers have symptoms of depression. Connect with others, whether through a support group, counseling, or a faith mentor or parish nurse, to help you feel less alone.

FAQs About Caregiver Burnout

What are the signs of caregiver burnout?

Changes in sleep or eating, irritability, fatigue and feelings of hopelessness are common signs.

How to cope with caregiver burnout?

Ask family or friends for specific help, make time for self-care, and consider respite services such as home health aides or adult day care.

What are the best self-care tips for caregivers?

Schedule your own health appointments, eat regular meals, take short breaks, stay socially connected and lean on faith or community support when needed.

How do I talk to my family about needing help?

Many caregivers hesitate to ask for support. Be specific about what you need, such as “Can you pick up Dad’s prescriptions this week?” or “Could you stay with Mom on Tuesday afternoon so I can rest?” Specific requests make it easier for family and friends to say yes.

You’re Not Alone In The Journey

Caregiving is an act of love, but that love includes caring for yourself. When caregivers seek help and support, they are often healthier, happier and better able to provide care.

Self-care is not separate from caregiving — it makes it sustainable. Rest, recharge, and ask for help to protect your health and strengthen the relationship you share with your loved one.